It’s no fun for her (and embarrassing for you) when it all ends... too early. If you're plagued by this sexual shortcoming, relax. There are numerous ways to last longer in bed.
Here are some ways to extend your sexual stamina, and make sex more enjoyable for you and your partner.
1. Have him masturbate beforehand.
1. Have him masturbate beforehand.
If you've seen There's Something About Mary, you know that having sex without masturbating is "like going out there with a loaded gun." Ejaculating an hour or two beforehand makes it harder for a man to come quickly. As Dr. Jane Greer, relationship expert and family therapist, puts it, "You can build up arousal again with slow and intimate foreplay with your partner, so the guy's excitement is initially satisfied and he can better pace himself and sync up with his partner's rhythm."
2. Have awkward sex.
When you've been with the same partner for a while, your routine sex positions can make his body anticipate coming, and thus come a lot sooner. New positions and sensations will distract him and make him last longer. "The more awkward and unfamiliar, the better," says Greer.
3. Try edging.
When he's about to come, have him stop and wait about a minute or so before going back at it. Everyone has an orgasmic point of no return, an "ejaculatory inevitability" as sex researcher Dr. Ian Kerner puts it. Edging trains his body to delay that point so he can spend more time on the edge (and more time pleasing you).
4. Squeeze the base of his penis.
You can do this with your hand or using a cock ring. It quite literally stops him from ejaculating. Think of it like bending a hose in half to stop the flow of water, but definitely do not bend his penis in half under any circumstances. Just give it a firm grip.
5.Get Out of Your Head. “Performance anxiety is the number one killer of sustaining an erection,” says sex coach Dr. Patti Britton, a board-certified Clinical Sexologist. “Shift your thinking to a more confident inner voice, as opposed to a worried voice.” Britton explains that a “self-debilitating mindset” is what shuts guys down. “When you begin to feel anxiety, the strategy is to stop, take a breath, and then focus on how things feel in the body. Stay out of your head and get into your body—focus on the feelings that your body is producing for you.”
6.Practice the 7 and 9 method. Similar to the Kama Sutra method (mentioned in no. 1, above), Harper recommends her favorite— the 7 and 9 technique. “It's 7 fast in/out strokes, followed by 9 slow in/out strokes. Then repeat: 7 fast, 9 slow, 7 fast, 9 slow,” she says. “This rhythm is good for guys who don't last quite as long as their partner needs, and good for the ladies as it establishes a good rhythm for her stimulation too.”
7. Have him do kegels, yoga, and pilates.
All of these exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which help him control orgasm spasms. (And yeah, dudes can do kegels too).
8.Try perpendicular sex positions.
This is technically an outercourse position, but it's a way to avoid the most sensitive areas of the penis (specifically, the underside of the head, where a lot of the nerves are located). "Don't actually enter her, but let her glide back and forth along the top of the shaft," says Kerner. Spoon or face each other on your sides, and it can still be enjoyable without making him rush to orgasm.
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